***If your thought patterns and behaviours are causing you distress, interfering with your day to day life or causing harm, you must seek help from a professional therapist via your doctor.***
Putting mental health disorders aside (OCD, panic attacks, eating disorders, emotional trauma, phobias), sometimes it’s not clear whether therapy or coaching is the best route to go. There is some overlap. And some therapists now offer coaching as a separate service.
What therapy and coaching have in common
Both therapy and coaching have the same objective: improvement of quality of life
- They are both therapeutic processes
- Therapists and coaches are neutral and non-judgemental
- You get undivided attention from someone who is truly listening to you
- You get a chance to formulate your thinking and gain clarity by talking to someone who listens and asks the right questions
- Both therapists and coaches are invested in your success
No one needs a life coach, but you might need a therapist.
Life coaching is for people whose lives are stable, but they feel unhappy or frustrated because their career, relationships or health are not where they could be, or they feel they are not living the life they were meant for. It’s for people who want to take their lives to the next level or change them in some way.
Whereas a therapist is for those whose suffering is interfering with their ability to function day-to-day. A therapist will help you create coping strategies, or in the case of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) work on changing the destructive or irrational thought patterns causing your symptoms.
Therapy may involve looking into your past experiences or childhood to discover what might be the root cause of the problem. Therapy can help you make sense of the past, and deal with ‘unfinished business’.
Whereas life coaching is all about creating a future scenario and helping you work towards it.
There are some cases where you could see a therapist or a life coach. For example, if you’re suffering from overwhelm, stress or lack of work/life balance. If you’re generally unhappy or feel stuck in life, a coach or a therapist could help.
What makes coaching different from therapy?
With life coaching:
- You get to realise ideas, dreams and desires
- The emphasis is on action
- You are actively working towards a future outcome
- You can maximise your strengths and realise your potential
- Your progress is measured
- Your coach motivates you
- Accountability is built-in to the process
The coaching process of creating a future aim makes dealing with issues really efficient. It helps you prioritise what needs to be done, which means you stop feeling overwhelmed, confused and in a tangle. Working towards an aim means you deal with issues as they arise on the journey. This is what sets coaching apart from therapy.
How to decide?
- If your life is not stable and your ability to function is being undermined by thoughts or behaviours, you would always go the therapy route (via a doctor).
- To improve your quality of life over and above the basic benchmark, you could see a therapist or a coach
- But if you want to focus on action towards a future aim, see a coach.
Some more tips…
If you need to make sense of the past, see a therapist. If you want to create your future, see a coach.
Therapists are good at helping you uncover the root cause of your suffering. Not always, but some tend to delve into childhood.
If you have unfinished business, see a therapist. If you want to start a business, see a coach.
A coach will listen to the ideas you’re too embarrassed to tell anyone, and actually explore how you might make them a reality.
When you are desperate for normality, see a therapist. When you are sick of normality, see a coach.
If you want to go beyond a mediocre life, a life coach can help you make that happen.
If you want to be treated like a patient, see a therapist. If you want to be empowered, see a coach.
If you’re stuck, a coach will move you forward but a therapist might want to explore how you got there.
I hope that helps and if you’re thinking of working with a coach, book a consultation with one of our coaches here.